Umar on Moderation: Be moderate in your love and hatred

September 3, 2012

Aslam Al-Habashi reported: Umar ibn Al-Khattab, may Allah be pleased with him, said, “Let not your love be infatuation and let not your hatred be destruction.” It was said, “How is this?” Umar said, “When you love someone, you become infatuated like a child. When you hate someone, you love destruction for your companion.”

Source: al-Adab al-Mufrad 1322

Grade: Sahih (authentic) according to Al-Albani

عن أسلم الحبشي عَنْ عُمَرَ بْنِ الْخَطَّابِ قَالَ لا يَكُنْ حُبُّكَ كَلَفًا وَلا بُغْضُكَ تَلَفًا فَقُلْتُ كَيْفَ ذَاكَ قَالَ إِذَا أَحْبَبْتَ كَلِفْتَ كَلَفَ الصَّبِيِّ وَإِذَا أَبْغَضْتَ أَحْبَبْتَ لِصَاحِبِكَ التَّلَفَ

1322 الأدب المفرد البخاري باب لا يكن بغضك تلفا

993 المحدث الألباني خلاصة حكم المحدث صحيح في صحيح الأدب المفرد